Self Love...

...There's nothing like it!

As women we're still involved in personal relationships with ourselves and are now learning to love everything that we used to loathe about ourselves. Some of us have built fortresses around us because we've found it easier than being rejected.

Our hair. Our bodies. Our skin colors. Our luscious lips. Some say our butts are God's gift to blue jeans and no ones looking for a pair to diminish all that you were born with; those injections or implants don't count. Those curves that we can't seem to lose by excessive dieting and exercise don't seem to be moving either, so dress them up in the best colors you can find.

Our lips are waiting to glossed with the simplest of lip balms or berry hued lipsticks, and again injections don't count because if you had to buy it...it ain't right!

And the hair! Who has hair that can be woven into intricate braids? Molded into any style that fits our hearts desire? Honey... we do!

For some women learning to love our whole selves has caused many women a lifetime of unnecessary grief. In all honesty we all know where are most greatest pain has come from when it comes to accepting our true selves and I don't need to tell any of you.

We live in a society that celebrates and exalts one standard  of beauty by negating our own and many of us have bought into this mind-set. The hurtful words used as assaults against us from our own and others is nothing but a reflection of who they are and what they feel and it's not any of our business.

Acceptance of our own beauty has often eluded us and our people for decades, now we're in the process of reclaiming all which has been lost. Even if no one else is heralding our physical charms we must learn to define and cherish our own unique beauty everyday while we're still alive.


After viewing this film I can no longer provide free advertisement's and sing the praises of clothing designers who don't even feature anyone who looks like me or considers me as a customer. We've got to find a sense of consciousness and this is no better time to find one than now. This is 2010 and this sad, no wonder so many women are still messed up in the head!

All of which we've done to attempt to hide, camouflage, diminish, erase, disguise, and reject who we are will be no more. I realised a very long time ago who I was and there's no turning back now because we have so many powerful memories and knew so much pain. These women who were once wounded little girls are wounded no more because they now have dusted themselves off and the battle is now over because they will be the only ones defining who they are from now on.
©2010Creative Concepts.

Post Desegregation Babies Are Reclaiming The Black Pride Movement???

"I absolutely love her natural hair and how she wore it so freely, gotta love Minnie!"
Excerpt from natural hair Bloggeer Nu Kink in her homage to the late singer Minnie Riperton.


The pictures of Minnie Riperton bring back so many memories of such a talented and beautiful lady. She wore her hair so freely as you say because during that time was the height of the "Black Is Beautiful Era" and "The Black Pride Era" and the majority of us wore our natural hair without shame or embarrassment. Every black woman who had a small Afro copied her style when should put those Baby Breath flowers in her hair to make that halo, including me. Not only was she a beautiful singer, but she had the voice of an Angel.


I guess after the 70's with the enforcement of desegregation laws and black people entering mainstream society at a higher rate, the idea of fitting in took hold where most felt the need to change their appearance in order to be more acceptable without realizing this changed their whole outlook on their own identity. We've had to fight with the Euro-Standard of beauty ever since they stepped foot on the African Continent and still much hasn't changed in regards to our identity because we keep letting everyone else decide it for us but us. Until we do then most people will forever have a problem exposing their ROOTS. 

The black man had no problem with it because there wasn't much he had to do other than trim his hair which became a problem for them if their Afro was huge because to some people it was a threatening. It was the black woman who suffered the more damaging aspects of it because of the advertisements and ideology which came after telling us we didn't measure up or weren't considered as beautiful or pretty enough if we didn't look a certain way and many women bought into this mind-set who then passed it on to their children, and so on and so on ending up with the results we have today.

We've still got a long way to go in to reclaim our own standards of beauty and the reality is strictly up to us to dismantle every stereotype known to man that tells any human being on the earth that they don't measure up or are in some way inferior.
Warning! This is not a trend, it's a way of life!